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Illusion. The romantic notion of a good marriage with an honest,
good, intelligent, decent, responsible, amiable, etc. partner.
Reality. There is certain to be at least a few flies in the
ointment. Your partner will have a few faults. The fault may
be laziness. Maybe be it will be bad humor. Or lack of sense.
Or perhaps it will be an inclination towards infidelity and
chasing the opposite sex. The faults may be of a type very
hard to endure or they may be easier to endure but they will be
there making for a reality that is less than romantic.
Illusion. The notion of working out your life in a job that is
satisfying and fulfilling, a job you enjoy.
Reality. The reality is likely to find you working through your
life in a job that is dull, unsatisfying, unfulfilling; a job
you may even detest a great deal of the time. The reality in
connection with your job is likely to be on the ugly side: you
hold on from day to day in a job you hate because you know that
a job change can easily mean jumping from the frying pan into
the fire. With yourself and a family to support an ugly job
situation is better than homelessness and starvation.
Illusions of life. Sunny meadows with flowers wafting in the
breeze; adventures in far away places with quaint ways and
customs; romantic escapades with dreamy, idealized members of
the opposite sex. All the necessities and luxuries of life
provided for you by some unseen hand. No thoughts, worries or
concerns about the mundane details of life.
Realities of life. Ugly tenements in the drab streets of dreary
cities; the drab grind of your everyday life; a wife who is out
fooling with other men; children who are going their own
stubborn, wayward ways; a job you detest but are afraid to
leave; emotional or mental problems that you are unable to
free yourself from; ugly situations in which you find yourself
trapped.
Apr 1994
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