Website owner: James Miller
How well does one really get to know another person? Even after living with a mate for years how well do we really know them? How sure are we of them? The program "20/20" last night featured a piece about support groups for straight people who have suddenly discovered, to their great shock and horror, that their mates were gay. Typically they were middle-aged people who had been married to their spouses for many years, often had several children with them, had had good marriages, and loved their mates dearly. Then suddenly the mate "finds himself", discovers his "true feelings", falls in love with a person of his own sex, or some such thing, and reveals his deep, dark secret to his mate. The people in the support group likened the trauma and hurt to the death of a loved one or a divorce from someone you have lived with for a long time. They said they often felt a stigma, felt they couldn't talk about the problem to others. They blamed themselves, wondered what was deficient in themselves, what they had done wrong, to drive their mate to a person of his own sex. The most frequent question from others was, "But how could you have lived with that person all those years and never even suspected he was gay? They were attached to their mate by love and all the bonds of years of memories but there was no way to hold them. Some accepted the idea of continuing in a platonic friendship with their mate while he lived with his gay lover. Jan 1994
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