Website owner: James Miller
I am happy
I am happy. On a scale of 1 to 10, I would put myself at a 10 in terms of happiness. And I would say I have been generally happy for the last 60 years. I met my wife about 60 years ago and I think I have been generally happy since meeting her. My general happiness has a lot to do with her. I don’t think I could be very happy living alone. If I were alone I think I would get a cat or small dog. In life I think everyone needs someone or something that he can love and that will love him back.
For a number of years we owned rental houses and owning rental houses brings with it a great deal of aggravation but in spite of that aggravation I was happy.
Before I met my wife I was shy around girls, didn’t have any experience with women, and didn’t know how to meet them. That caused frustration and a degree of unhappiness. Part of the problem was that I was, and long had been, so focused on mathematics and technical studies. I was always a loner, didn’t drink or go to parties, and lacked the varied social experience that many people have.
My happiness with my wife probably has a lot to do with my wife. The percentage of marriages that end in divorce in America is about 40 - 45%. And for every divorce there are probably many unhappy marriages. So we see that just having a spouse doesn’t guarantee happiness.
The secret to happiness is a lot more than just having a good spouse. It is knowing how to live life. It is knowing how to live with your spouse, how to treat your spouse. It is understanding that we all have our faults and shortcomings and accepting faults and shortcomings in your spouse.
One never finds perfection in this life. You need to learn to live with imperfection.
The big secret to happiness is learning how to live life. It is all about attitude. Having the right attitudes and not having the wrong attitudes. It is about an understanding of life and how to live life — about prudence, wisdom and understanding.
How should one act with his spouse? Don’t argue and don’t criticize. Be kind. Always be kind. Be flexible. Have enough control over yourself that you are never ugly. Go more than half way. Way more than halfway if necessary. Do more than your share. Don’t let pride prevent bending. Always maintain a pleasant and good disposition. Follow Christian teachings and principles. See
Adjectives describing a true Christian
Good temper is the most contented, the most comfortable state
of the soul; the greatest happiness both for those who possess
it, and for those who feel its influence. With "gentleness" in
his own character, "comfort" in his house, and "good temper" in
his wife, the earthly felicity of man is complete.
Bad temper is its own scourge. Few things are more bitter than
to feel bitter. A man's venom poisons himself more than his
victim.
Charles Buxton
30 Dec 2025
Jesus Christ and His Teachings
Way of enlightenment, wisdom, and understanding
America, a corrupt, depraved, shameless country
On integrity and the lack of it
The test of a person's Christianity is what he is
Ninety five percent of the problems that most people have come from personal foolishness
Liberalism, socialism and the modern welfare state
The desire to harm, a motivation for conduct
On Self-sufficient Country Living, Homesteading
Topically Arranged Proverbs, Precepts, Quotations. Common Sayings. Poor Richard's Almanac.
Theory on the Formation of Character
People are like radio tuners --- they pick out and listen to one wavelength and ignore the rest
Cause of Character Traits --- According to Aristotle
We are what we eat --- living under the discipline of a diet
Avoiding problems and trouble in life
Role of habit in formation of character
Personal attributes of the true Christian
What determines a person's character?
Love of God and love of virtue are closely united
Intellectual disparities among people and the power in good habits
Tools of Satan. Tactics and Tricks used by the Devil.
The Natural Way -- The Unnatural Way
Wisdom, Reason and Virtue are closely related
Knowledge is one thing, wisdom is another
My views on Christianity in America
The most important thing in life is understanding
We are all examples --- for good or for bad
Television --- spiritual poison
The Prime Mover that decides "What We Are"
Where do our outlooks, attitudes and values come from?
Sin is serious business. The punishment for it is real. Hell is real.
Self-imposed discipline and regimentation
Achieving happiness in life --- a matter of the right strategies
Self-control, self-restraint, self-discipline basic to so much in life