On rape, age of consent, age of majority, sex education, and teenage dating

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At what point should a person be considered an adult? In nature when any animal, such as a dog or cat, reaches the point of sexual maturity, they start engaging in sexual intercourse and bearing young. I believe that adulthood for people naturally begins when a person reaches sexual maturity. This is the point at which sexual capability and sexual desire begins (the onset of puberty). In my case it was the age of 12. I believe this point is the natural dividing line between childhood and adulthood. I think this was true in my case and is true in general. This is the point when a person stops thinking like a child and starts thinking like an adult. It is the point in which a huge new reality is forced on him — the reality of sexual desire, its great power, its temptations, and all of the dangers of engaging in premarital sex. The onset of sexual maturity is the end of youthful innocence and the beginning of adult realities. It is a sudden new extremely powerful force that must be dealt with, with a lot of moral considerations involved.

Note. Having said all this it is true that changes do occur in the bodies of adolescent boys and girls after the onset of puberty (i.e. after the time when they become sexually mature). Boys get taller and heavier and girls bodies change in certain ways.

I think the age of consent for sexual relations should be set at sexual maturity (around age 12). Furthermore I think that sexual attraction is pretty much blind to age and that an older man should be able to marry a young girl (or older woman marry a young boy). There should be no stigma involved in doing that. I say this partly because I can remember that when I was 12 or 13 years old I found certain women who were 30 or 35 years old very attractive and had they been single and were it not for practical considerations (such as the fact that I hadn’t finished my education, didn’t have a job, and wasn’t financially established) I would have been receptive to marrying them. I don’t think there would have been anything wrong with that. I could possibly have been very happy with them.

Age of consent. The age of consent is the age at which a person is considered to be legally competent to consent to sexual acts.

The age of consent in many countries is 11 or 12 years old. It is 11 in Nigeria, 12 in the Phillippines, and 13 in Japan. These ages of consent are reasonable. In the USA federal law establishes 12 as a minimum age of consent and the actual age of consent depends on the state.

Age of majority. The age of majority is the age, below which a person is considered a minor (i.e. a child) and above which a person is regarded as an adult and becomes legally responsible for his conduct and actions. The age of majority is 18 in most countries and in most states in the USA.

I believe a young person should be allowed to choose to become legally responsible for himself as early as age 12, the point of sexual maturity. I believe a person is an adult at that age.

Having said these things I think prudence demands that a person (at least males) defer marriage and sexual relations until one has a decent education and a good job.

Sex education. Why sex education? In nature I don’t know any animal that needs to be instructed in the “how to’s” of sex. It all seems to come very naturally to them. I think it comes very naturally to humans, too. I don’t like sex education. I think its only effect is a bad one. I think the main purpose of sex education is to teach young people how to fornicate safely. But it doesn’t also tell them that it is highly wrong — that it is a serious sin that leads to hell. I think its main effect is to sanction illicit sex and lead people into a life of sexual promiscuity. And now sex education in many places is introducing young children to deviant sex, perverted sex. The only purpose of this is to remove the stigma of perverted sex, to make it socially acceptable. I think this is terrible — really shocking. But it is something one might expect in a highly depraved and sick society.

On teenage dating. America is a highly permissive country (morally, sexually). And one reason for all of the permissiveness is all of the freedom that is given to young teenagers. Teenage dating. Any person with any sense at all knows what that practice will lead to. The sexual force is just too strong and powerful. You don’t put a big piece of chocolate cake under the nose of someone who wants to lose weight and expect him not to try it. You don’t put gasoline next to fire and then pretend surprise when there is an explosion. For our society to condone that practice is simple high dishonesty and hypocrisy. Teenagers should be kept under tight leash. No single teenage girl should be allowed to be alone with any sexually mature male. Many societies and cultures of the past have understood this basic, obvious fact. For our society to condone such things shows its extreme foolishness and indifference to morality. It shows that adults just don’t care about their children. The oriental countries don’t allow their children this kind of freedom. The Moslem countries don’t. It seems that it is just the Christian countries that do. Why would this be? Is it that modern day Christianity just doesn’t care about morality? Anyway, the result of it all is widespread sexual promiscuity, moral decadence, widespread acceptance of immorality.

Any person, teenager or not, male or female, who has a child out of wedlock has a moral obligation to assume the responsibilities of adulthood and raise that child. Having a child out of wedlock before you have finished your schooling and have a good job is highly foolish and a perfect way to ruin your life.

On rape. I think rape should be defined as, and restricted to, the case of a man forcing himself sexually on another person (man or woman). If sexual relations are consensual, then there is no rape. I believe the woman controls and if she is agreeable and consents, there is no rape. I think charging a man with rape when the sexual relations were consensual is highly wrong and a travesty of justice. Or charging an older woman with rape for having sex with a young boy. People are going to prison for that and I think that is highly wrong.

When I was nine years old an eleven year old neighbor girl asked me to have sex with her. I was listening. I was interested. I was willing. She took off her clothes. But I hadn’t reached puberty, wasn’t capable of sex, didn’t know anything about the subject. She was disappointed. I tell this story to illustrate the real Facts of Life in regard to sex — to show how powerful a force Sexual Desire can be in both sexes (male and female) beginning at the onset of puberty. I suspect that this story I have just told about this girl is not untypical of young adolescent girls (and boys). In the modern West, sexual promiscuity is so prevalent starting at the earliest ages, it seems to me that there is just an enormous amount of high hypocrisy in the social discourse on it. Sexual promiscuity is rampant on the one hand and on the other hand there is great public indignation when an adult has sexual intercourse with a teenager. It is a great crime and gets into all the news. These teenagers are not innocent. Certainly not today. In the adult world there is so much fornication on the one hand and, yet, we are at the point where it seems that just looking at a woman wrongly constitutes sexual harassment. It is all of the crazy contradictions. Don’t talk to me about innocence. Above a certain age, I don’t believe in it. A woman invites a man into her apartment and then claims he raped her. There was a time when women didn’t invite men into their apartments.

We live in an age when there is a huge amount of sexual perversion, where homosexuality is accepted, where even homosexual marriage is accepted and legalized. Where homosexuals are preying on and perverting young children — very young children, innocent four or five year old children. We hear about it happening in the Catholic church, in other churches, and in many settings (such as the Boy Scouts). Anywhere adults are working with children. I believe it is very prevalent. How much attention is all this getting? This kind of thing is what I would call real crime. Molesting children under the age of pubescence is really unpardonable. These children really are innocent and a person who touches them should be hung. That is my opinion.

In regard to adults having sexual intercourse with teenagers, at least in ages past it has been very common in many cultures for young teenage girls to marry older men. The older men would be well established financially and it made sense for a young girl to marry a well established older man. If an older man found a young, attractive 12 or 13 year old virgin and married her, I don’t see anything wrong with that. If everyone did that, that kind of social custom might produce a much more moral society than what we have today. It might cut out all of the teenage promiscuity. And it would provide a source of virgins for people looking for a spouse. Today finding an attractive virgin is probably close to impossible. That is just the state of things in our society. Perhaps we need to look at other cultures or cultures of ages past for answers to our social problems.

I say all of these things because modern liberalism has muddled peoples’ minds and judgments on these issues. Wrong laws are the reason 19 year old boys are being charged with rape for having consensual sex with 17 year old girls or older women are being charged with rape for having sex with teenage boys. People don’t think for themselves. They just follow the crowd. Whatever the latest opinion is on a particular topic, that is their opinion. Their mores and beliefs change with the wind. They test the breeze and change their opinion according to the breeze.

Oct 2018