Flexibility and humility are critically important elements for a good marriage

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Marriage. What is it that makes a good marriage?

One thing is kindness. How very, very important it is in a marriage to treat your mate well, to be kind with her, to be flexible with her, to be patient with her.

Flexibility in marriage is a great virtue. Authoritarian rule is not advisable. Listen and be flexible.

Don’t criticize your mate. Accept her as she is. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. We all have our faults. If she doesn’t do a thing that ought to be done, then you quietly do it.

The happiness of married life depends on making small

sacrifices with readiness and cheerfulness.

Selden

Two persons who have chosen each other out of all the species

with the design to be each other's mutual comfort and

entertainment, have, in that action, bound themselves to be

good-humored, affable, discreet, forgiving, patient and joyful,

with respect to each other's frailties and perfections, to the

end of their lives.

Addison

Marriage is the strictest tie of perpetual friendship, and

there can be no friendship without confidence, and no

confidence without integrity, and he must expect to be wretched

who pays to beauty, riches, or politeness that regard which

only virtue and piety can claim.

Johnson

If you would have the nuptial union last,

let virtue be the bond that ties it fast.

Rowe

A good wife and health are a man's best wealth.

There is just not much in life that comes close to the happiness of a good, happy marriage. Before I met my wife I was frustrated and lonely. I needed something. What I needed was my wife. I wanted to find the right girl. Not just any girl but the right girl. In this world that we live in that is not an easy assignment.

Without my wife I would be very lonely. It is just knowing she is there. Even if we don’t talk, it doesn’t matter. She means everything in the world to me. Without her I would be lost. And my love for her has nothing whatsoever to do with lust, sex, or sexual desire. I love her because of her goodness, her gentleness, her femininity, her kind ways, her love and care for me.

The secret of a good, happy marriage does not lie in sex. It is indeed my humble opinion that a married couple would do well to strive for sexual abstinence (celibacy) in their marriage. Sexual desire will dwindle to little or nothing under the right attitude — if the desire is ignored or neglected. Much in life is all about attitude. The essence of a good marriage lies in a spiritual relationship and not in a carnal, pleasure oriented one. There is great value in self-discipline, self-abnegation, and self-renunciation in life. Pursue the spiritual and not the carnal.

The secret to a happy marriage lies in mutual respect, trust, and goodness. Integrity and virtue are requirements and flexibility, prudence and humility are some of the most critical ingredients.

11 Oct 2021